I have been thinking again. I know, thinking, thinking, thinking. But that is what I do best. I have a lot of time on my hands and my brain never seems to shut off. I was having a discussion today about how alpha men draw alpha bitches to them. So my brain has been going around and around on the subject.
It truly is survival of the fittest. It is as nature intended it to be in my humble opinion. I mean how could I be with a man who was not alpha, who was less than what nature intended him to be. An inherent quality of being at the top of chain. Being of the fittest, the natural order. How it was meant to be. I did not always believe this, when I was young, I thought that fairy tales came true, and my prince would ride out of the sunset on his white steed.
What a silly girl I was!
Even in those fantasies I knew I needed a strong man. I was a very strong willed person, and still am. I could not be with a man who was less strong than I. I could not be the top alpha in the chain. I have to have that exchange, that power exchange, that TPE, the completion of how nature provided it for me. I am not saying this works for everyone, these are just my beliefs. I was taught from a very early age, that the man rules the home, the woman merely takes care of it under his guidance. His command.
I have been in wrong relationships over the years where the men were less than alphas and it did not work. It was simple, it did not work and I ended up being miserable. They were threatened by my alpha nature. They would see at times that I was trying to take over their authority, but in all reality, since they did not or could not handle it, someone had to. There always has to be one who has the most authority. Even in companies, someone has to have at least 51% of the vote. Otherwise how would anyone get anywhere. You wouldn't. It would fail.
And that is how I feel it should be in a relationship between a man and a woman. At least in my world. I want and need the man to have the 51%. I can do it, of course I can and have. I was a single mother, and you had to do it, or else you would not have been able to take care of your kids. But wanting to, and needing to is another story all together. I do not want to, I do not need to. I need the opposite.
It is a need.
I am an alpha bitch. I need that alpha male, just as nature promised. All those glorious inherent traits an alpha male presents.
Never Qualifies Himself: The alpha male makes no apologies, he doesn’t explain his behavior. he is completely comfortable in his own skin so he doesn’t need to. They don’t boast about their success or try and prove anything – again they don’t need to; they assume you will like them simply because other people do, but they don’t care if you don’t – they won’t chase after you for your validation, they don’t care.
Confidence: The biggest asset to possess, no matter where you are, is self confidence. Believing in yourself, no matter what, is one of the alpha male traits that truly stands out. There is a fine line between self belief and arrogance, and the alpha male is well aware of these boundaries and knows how to handle it. He will appear supremely composed, and will leave you amazed at his level of confidence.
No Explanations: An alpha male will not look to anybody for approval. He will follow his instincts, and not feel like he owes anybody any explanations. There is no urge within him to justify and validate his actions and words to anybody. The most obvious of all the alpha male characteristics is that he is comfortable in his own skin and does not look and hope for any one's approval.
And they have more wonderful traits too, but those are the jest of it. And that is what I am drawn to. I believe it is survival of the fittest, you have to claw and scratch and fight your way to the top, and I could not imagine not being with an alpha male.
What can I say.
I am an alpha bitch.
And this quote perhaps says it better than I could.....
"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding." ~Anais Nin~
Life goes on.......
